The Merry Go Round
Ok, so this post is meant to be funny. I certainly hope it doesn't come across as anything differently.
Things people forget to tell you when they talk about planning their weddings...
1) Finding a venue is like riding on a merry-go-round. Just as soon as you think you've found the place, somehow it falls through and you're right back where you got on. This may take a while, but don't give up. You could always get married at the courthouse. Just remember..you WILL get married.
2) You can't just set a date. You have to find a venue THEN set the date and then you have to remember that your cousin is getting married, your best friend is having a baby and your sister is getting married too. (bummer! I Just want to know when I get to say I DO! Courthouse is looking good...how about tomorrow?) =)
3) Lots of people you don't know have lots of comments about what you're doing..like, "marriage is such a mistake" and you don't want to hear about 90% of them...you get really good at pretending to listen, smile and say thank you...
4) Planning the start of your life together is fun, fun, fun... But whoever thought you'd have to discuss things like "what kind of hand towel holder do you like, and what direction do you roll your bath tissue in?"
5) You have to think of every little thing to put on your registry like egg timers, pot holders, corn cob holders..you know since you use those once a year, you NEED them. Can I just say one of everything in Macys, Please?
6) RSVPs are more important than you'll ever realize. People really do need to know exactly how many people to expect. Something I've been warned about is to expect someone to show up with kids you didn't invite. Apparently not everyone knows the rule of etiquette that if your children's names are not on the invite, you are not supposed to bring them...
For all the weddings I procrastinated on RSVP-ing too, I apologize!!!
7) Alterations can cost almost as much as your dress. Shop wisely!
8) When you ask your 3 year old niece to be your flower girl, she'll get really excited, say YES, then ask you what a flower girl is and why in the world would she throw flowers. OH yeah, and she'll ask you if her dress can be pink and you have to figure out how not to disappoint while steering her away from all pink options.
...and that is just in my first week of planning. For those of you who have been brides, please feel free to leave a comment on here of things you didn't know/expect when it was your turn. Funny, serious...all comments welcomed!
Things people forget to tell you when they talk about planning their weddings...
1) Finding a venue is like riding on a merry-go-round. Just as soon as you think you've found the place, somehow it falls through and you're right back where you got on. This may take a while, but don't give up. You could always get married at the courthouse. Just remember..you WILL get married.
2) You can't just set a date. You have to find a venue THEN set the date and then you have to remember that your cousin is getting married, your best friend is having a baby and your sister is getting married too. (bummer! I Just want to know when I get to say I DO! Courthouse is looking good...how about tomorrow?) =)
3) Lots of people you don't know have lots of comments about what you're doing..like, "marriage is such a mistake" and you don't want to hear about 90% of them...you get really good at pretending to listen, smile and say thank you...
4) Planning the start of your life together is fun, fun, fun... But whoever thought you'd have to discuss things like "what kind of hand towel holder do you like, and what direction do you roll your bath tissue in?"
5) You have to think of every little thing to put on your registry like egg timers, pot holders, corn cob holders..you know since you use those once a year, you NEED them. Can I just say one of everything in Macys, Please?
6) RSVPs are more important than you'll ever realize. People really do need to know exactly how many people to expect. Something I've been warned about is to expect someone to show up with kids you didn't invite. Apparently not everyone knows the rule of etiquette that if your children's names are not on the invite, you are not supposed to bring them...
For all the weddings I procrastinated on RSVP-ing too, I apologize!!!
7) Alterations can cost almost as much as your dress. Shop wisely!
8) When you ask your 3 year old niece to be your flower girl, she'll get really excited, say YES, then ask you what a flower girl is and why in the world would she throw flowers. OH yeah, and she'll ask you if her dress can be pink and you have to figure out how not to disappoint while steering her away from all pink options.
...and that is just in my first week of planning. For those of you who have been brides, please feel free to leave a comment on here of things you didn't know/expect when it was your turn. Funny, serious...all comments welcomed!
You forgot one detail: when you do find that perfect church and reception hall that both have openings on the same day, set your date, and even get the invites printed... It may not mean a thing...the pastor of the church can still cancel the wedding when he realizes that it will interfere with a golf tournament he wants to play in. But, like you said, you'll still get married and live happily ever after. And you'll laugh about it....well, maybe some day many, many years down the road. But before that day comes, it'll give you a good story to tell. =)
ReplyDeleteLet me just say oops and that I hope your eyes weren't rolling too much after our IM sessions. ;)
ReplyDeleteI re-worded that part. You're the second person to hint that maybe it was them. OOPS!
ReplyDeleteYou are too funny...this is all too familiar. I loved being engaged, but I did have my share of melt-downs! So many descisions and so much emotion equal tears! Register at Bed Bath and Beyond too...they have a wonderful, organized process and great return policies. Just be well rested, bring snacks and don't go when it's crowed. Be prepared to be there for 5+ hours..or break it up into 2 visits! Everything else will work out. Enjoy this time, the parties, the gifts and being the Bride to Be is so much fun!!! Is the wedding in ATL??
ReplyDeleteahhhhh. Such a helpful post. Not planning a wedding yet, but with 4 girls in the family ONE of us is BOUND to need your great tips!
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